Cumming Too Soon? 

How to Last Longer in Bed…

About Early Ejaculation

Early ejaculation, formerly known as premature ejaculation, is simply any time a man orgasms sooner than he or his partner(s) would like, it's one of the most common sexual concerns affecting men of all ages and despite its prevalence, it's often surrounded by silence and embarrassment; however, there is nothing premature about addressing and overcoming this challenge if you wish to do so.

If you've ever found yourself in the middle of a hot sexual experience, only for it to end way too soon, you're not alone. I, and many men like me, and possibly you, have felt the shame and stigma of not being able to last long and hard enough to satisfy your partner in bed. This issue can take a toll on a man's self-esteem, affecting everything from feeling confident to go on dates to satisfying their long-time partner in an otherwise flourishing relationship.

Early ejaculation can leave both partners feeling frustrated and disconnected in the bedroom. But the good news is, early ejaculation is not a life sentence, and it's totally something we can work on!

Understanding the 3 Main Causes of Early Ejaculation

Biological - Psychological - Lifestyle Choice

Biological Factors

Biological reasons for premature ejaculation are less common than psychological and lifestyle factors; however, it always pays to see an endocrinologist if you have the means and ability to access one. An endocrinologist can help diagnose and treat conditions related to hormone imbalances, such as low testosterone (hypogonadism), which can affect libido, energy levels, muscle mass, and overall well-being.

 Learn more and find a Endocrinologist In Your Area 

Lifestyle Choices Affecting Your Sex Life

Daily lifestyle choices can significantly impact your sex life. Simple changes like drinking more water daily to a complete lifestyle revamp of your diet and habits might be necessary to achieve the sexual health you desire.

Hydration and Diet 

Drinking water and staying hydrated are essential to maintaining a healthy erection. Water lubricates and hydrates the body and joints. Think of a raisin, all dried up and shriveled—it's not fucking, and neither are you if you don't stay hydrated. A healthy diet also plays a vital role in sexual health. While no one wants to hear it, eating better truly makes a difference.

Learn more about foods to help support your Sexual Health in future blog posts.

Exercise

I get it, no one came on here so they could be told they have to work out more, but the truth of the matter is that introducing exercise into your routine can energize your inner vitality and promote healthy blood circulation, which is essential for maintaining erections. If you have the means to do so, incorporating activities like weightlifting or yoga can be great for your body and mind. Yoga, in particular, can support your sexual and intimate journey in profound ways. On ‘youtube.com’ you can find numerous free resources available. A couple channels I like for beginners are,  Yoga With Adriene - YouTube and  Breathe and Flow - YouTube 

Learn how yoga can support your sexual journey in future blog posts.

How We Masturbate Matters

Porn, I love it you love it, me and my partner love to watch it together and then fuck like dogs for the rest of the night. Many people watch and masturbate to porn, more than would comfortably admit it to you, so don't feel ashamed or shy about it or your preferences. 

Many of us enjoy watching porn, whether alone or with our partner(s). However, habitually masturbating in a hurried manner, whether watching porn or not, trains the body to reach orgasm quickly. This conditioning can manifest as early ejaculation during actual sexual encounters. Slowing down, being mindful, and practicing more controlled masturbation techniques, such as edging can help recondition your body's arousal responses, leading to better ejaculatory control. 

Find more tips and masturbation practices to last longer HERE.

The Power of Thoughts on Erections

Our thoughts profoundly impact our erections, influencing them both positively and negatively. Negative self-talk and thoughts can trigger the body's stress response, releasing hormones like adrenaline that constrict blood vessels and reduce blood flow to the penis. When stress and anxiety activate your sympathetic nervous system, your body prepares to fight or flee, diverting blood flow to essential muscles and organs needed for survival, Not reproduction.

Your ancestors were not having sex with a tiger breathing down their necks, but your body doesn't know the difference between real danger and the thoughts in your mind. 

Worrying about performance or fearing judgment from a partner can create a mental barrier, leading to early ejaculation followed by a loss of erection, or making it difficult to achieve or maintain an erection at all. Negative past experiences or internalized pressure to perform can perpetuate a cycle of anxiety and performance issues. 

On the positive side…

Positive thoughts, such as feelings of confidence, arousal, and connection with a partner, can enhance sexual performance. When a man feels relaxed, confident, and focused on the pleasurable aspects of the experience, his body responds accordingly, promoting healthy blood flow and erection strength. Visualization of arousing scenarios and positive self-talk can further boost sexual performance and satisfaction. Managing thoughts through mindfulness and positive reinforcement can help break this cycle and foster a healthier, more satisfying sexual experience for both you and your partner(s).

Understanding and addressing these factors, you can regain control and enjoy a more fulfilling and confident sexual life. Let's continue this journey together, sign up for a one on one connection call and see how I can best support you HERE